My Mid-Life Rejuvenation – Rejecting the Idea of a Mid-Life Crisis

The Lord directs the steps of the godly.
He delights in every detail of their lives.
Though they stumble, they will never fall,
 for the Lord holds them by the hand.

Psalms 37:23-24

God directs our steps

God delights in every detail of my life.  EVERY DETAIL.

Do you know any “Type A” personality people.  You know the people.  Those time-management focused, seemingly organized, high achieving people.  Usually they are your workaholic co-workers who are obsessed with deadlines and details.  Well most of the Type A characters can be used to describe me pretty accurately.  Maybe they can describe you too.

I love a good checklist and I can be overly detail orientated in too many areas of my life.  Recently, I celebrated a birthday and I cannot believe that in just one more year I will be FORTY years old.

Glen Ivy Hot Springs
Thankfully, I was able to celebrate my birthday with some rest and relaxation which is definitely a luxury for this toddler mom.  I was able to get pampered and do all the fun things to celebrate this almost milestone.  Naturally, being the Type A person that I am, I compiled a list of my 40 things I want to do before I turn 40, which really is only about 27 things right now (I am open to suggestions haha).

Believe it or not, I am excited about reaching this milestone. Some of you might be wondering why or maybe if I am going crazy but hear me out. Did you know that the average life expectancy of a woman in the United States in 78.74 years.  This means I am right at the middle of my life and entering the second phase of my life.  For the past several weeks, I’ve been thinking about all that has brought me to this point. Call me a rebel but I reject the idea of a “Mid-Life Crisis”, I prefer to call it my “Mid-Life Rejuvenation or Celebration”.

Rejuvenate: To recharge, recreate, refresh, regenerate, renew, repair, restore, resuscitate, revitalize, revive

Reflecting.

My life has been interesting to say the least.  It’s been filled with some good decisions, some horrible decisions, some crazy good and crazy bad adventures.  I’ve had tremendous joy and heartbreak.  I’ve come to close to death or the potential for life changing devastation  more than once.  By God’s grace, I am still here and He is not done with me just yet.

I came to faith right after I graduated college.  My eyes were opened to the world in a whole new way.  My life became less about myself and more about how can I serve others.

I’ve had the privilege and the opportunity to travel across the world and see some very beautiful places and meet amazing people.

I’ve had opportunities to walk in the gifts that God has given me. Everything considered, I’ve been blessed to be able to serve God and serve His people in many areas and aspects of my life in the last 15+ years. And to top it all off I found a career that I absolutely love.

How will you be remembered?  

Does this question ever cross your mind?  It always came to mind when I heard of someone’s passing or attended a funeral. When I was in my twenties this thought never crossed my mind.  I was not concerned about my legacy then but here I am 10 years later thinking about these type of things.

Looking Forward!

Legacy.

Generation after generation stands in awe of your work; each one tells stories of your mighty acts.

‭‭Psalm‬ ‭145:4‬ ‭MSG‬‬

Sometimes it is so very hard to get out of the day-to-day task oriented life and think about our lasting legacy.   I am not talking about the type of monetary inheritance that we may leave our loved ones.   I am talking about the type of faith heritage that we will leave behind – one that will last from generation to generation.

What type of memories and faith will I live with those people who I interact with regularly. My children, my spouse, my family, my friends, the people that I interact with on a regular basis.

Every year my birthday weekend celebration is shared with an amazing figure, Dr Martin Luther King Jr.  Here are his thoughts on legacy, “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter”  I cannot think of anything that matters more than our eternal destiny. 

The godly walk with integrity;
    blessed are their children who follow them.

Proverbs 20:7

Proverbs 20

We cannot control people’s perspective of us, our life, our actions or our motives.  We can only control our perspective and attitude on the world around us.  As I get older I am realizing that pleasing everyone is impossible, so I just need to be me and walk in the calling that God has placed upon my life.

The wicked run away when no one is chasing them,but the godly are as bold as lions.

Proverbs 28:1

Proverbs 28

Intentional Living.

I want to be intentional about my life.  I want to be a woman who unapologetically walks in the gifts God has given me.

Teach me to do your will,
    for you are my God.
May your gracious Spirit lead me forward
    on a firm footing.  

Psalm 143:20

Psalms 143

I don’t want to be a perfect mom or the “best” mom. I want to be the mom my children need me to be. I want to see them and their uniqueness from the eyes of heaven. I want to nourish and foster the gifts that God has given them. I want to cultivate a home that allows them to bloom into a mighty man and woman of God. I want my children to be bold and confident in their identity in Christ.

I want to expand my world. I want to set my feet on soil that I’ve never seen before.  I deeply desire to take my children on missionary trips and I look forward to these days.  I want to read books that challenge my thoughts and learn skills that push me and make me uncomfortable.

I want to spend my days, hours, minutes developing my relationship with Christ. I don’t want Him to be something added to my life but for Him to be central. The air that gives me breath.  I want my spirit to be so centered that when God whispers move I am already packed and ready to go.

I know that tomorrow is not promised to anyone but that does not prevent me from hoping, dreaming, and envisioning a future filled with purpose and destiny. I pray that God willing I live to the average age of a woman. What will my next 39 years look like ? Only God knows but I one thing is for certain there is only one way I want to be remembered and that is by my legacy of faith.

Does anything else really matter? Careers fade, even the best of inventions get replaced, books get forgotten, money gets spent, homes and possessions deteriorate.

Only one thing remains. God’s word.

For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.

Philippians 2:13

Philippians 2

Let’s start each day with the best intentions to live life well. To run our race in our lane with endurance, perseverance and focus. Remembering, that how we start is not as important as how we finish.  Let’s continue pushing, pursuing, and seeking victory for our life and the destinies of our loved ones. Let’s push and push into God some more.  So we can be confident, empowered and walking in the victory of God in our life.

You will show me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭16:11‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Psalms 16:11


I recently read a story that really illustrates what it means to leave a lasting legacy.  Our accomplishments will be forgotten, memories of us will fade, and most of our words will be forgotten, it is only our legacy of faith that will remain.

In ancient Rome, at the time of Emperor Tiberius, there lived a good man who had two sons. One was in the military, and had been sent to the most distant regions of the empire. The other son was a poet, and delighted all of Rome with his beautiful verses.

One night, the father had a dream. An angel appeared to him, and told him that the words of one of his sons would be learned and repeated throughout the world for all generations to come. The father woke from his dream grateful and crying, because life was generous, and had revealed to him something any father would be proud to know.

Shortly thereafter, the father died as he tried to save a child who was about to be crushed by the wheels of a chariot. He then met the angel that had appeared in his dream in the Heaven.

“You were always a good man,” the angel said to him. “You lived your life in a loving way, and died with dignity. I can now grant you any wish you desire.”

“Life was good to me”, the man said. “When you appeared in my dream, I felt that all my efforts had been rewarded, because my son’s poems will be read by men for generations to come. I don’t want anything for myself. But any father would be proud of the fame achieved by one whom he had cared for as a child, and educated as he grew up. Sometime in the distant future, I would like to see my son’s words.”

The angel touched the man’s shoulder, and they were both projected far into the future. They were in an immense setting, surrounded by thousands of people speaking a strange language.

The man wept with happiness.

“I know that my son’s poems were immortal,” he said to the angel through his tears. “Can you tell me which of my son’s poems these people are repeating?”

The angel came closer to the man, and, with tenderness, led him to a bench nearby, where they sat down.  “The verses of your son who was the poet were very popular in Rome,” the angel said. “Everyone loved them and enjoyed them. But when the reign of Tiberius ended, his poems were forgotten. The words you’re hearing now are those of your son in the military.”

The man looked at the angel in surprise.

“Your son went to serve at a distant place, and became a centurion. He was just and good. One afternoon, one of his servants fell ill, and it appeared that he would die. Your son had heard of a rabbi who was able to cure illnesses, and he rode out for days and days in search of this man. Along the way, he learned that the man he was seeking was the Son of God. He met others who had been cured by him, and they instructed your son in the man’s teachings. And so, despite the fact that he was a Roman centurion, he converted to their faith. Shortly thereafter, he reached the place where the man he was looking for was visiting.”

“He told the man that one of his servants was gravely ill, and the rabbi made ready to go to his house with him. But the centurion was a man of faith, and looking into the eye of the rabbi, he knew that he was surely in the presence of the Son of God.”

“And this is what your son said,” the angel told the man. “These are the words he said to the rabbi at that point, and they have never been forgotten: ‘My Lord, I am not worthy that you should come under my roof. But only speak a word and my servant will be healed.”

The Alchemist by Paolo Coelho

Note: The Biblical Centurion Story Can be Found in Matthew Chapter 8 verses 5 – 13.


How will you be remembered?

Then Christ will make his home in your hearts as you trust in him. Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.  Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.

Ephesians 3:17-20


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With Love,

Misty

4 thoughts on “My Mid-Life Rejuvenation – Rejecting the Idea of a Mid-Life Crisis

  1. I also turn 39 next month and have been thinking of ways to enjoy this next milestone and season of life. Great stuff to think about, Misty. Amen.

    “Aging doesn’t have to mean decline; make it a pilgrimage of hope.” – Cornelius Plantinga

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