“She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs without fear of the future.”
We each have a unique story about how we became mothers. Maybe it was through marriage, adoption or pregnancy. We remember how we found out, the birthing experience and our first time looking into our child’s eyes. The first few months of caring for our child came with many moments of joy, struggles and if you’re like me, a few good cries. Our story is as unique as our fingerprint.
Whether our children are infants, toddlers, adolescents, teens or adults the lessons of motherhood never really end. We asked several moms who are “momming” children at different ages and stages of life to see what they are learning in motherhood.
With our own experiences and the experiences of our mom tribe as our guide. We gathered up:
The 10 Things We are Learning as Moms
- Let Them Be Little. Children can light up your life with the pitter patter of little footsteps stomping through the house, the giggles, the cuddles and the genuine smiles that shine from ear to ear. So let them play, let them make messes and let them be little because they will grow up entirely too fast. A messy house makes for a happy child.
- Smile! Your Fan Club is Watching. Privacy is out the door. Potty breaks become a party of two and some of the easiest and quickest tasks will now take more time as your little ones stare on and “help”. Enjoy these moments because you will miss the days that they asked for your help.
- Perfection is nonexistent. You are not perfect, your children are not perfect and your house will not be perfect. So let it go! Life is too short to spend endless hours arguing over the right way to fold the laundry.
- Patience. Nothing teaches patience like reading to your one year old the same story over and over again or sitting with your two year old while they try to use the potty. Patience is not always our virtue and sometimes we blow it. It is okay we are learning and in time will get better.
- Selflessness. Time, energy, finances… the list goes on and on. It is no longer about me, myself and I. Our lives are now consumed with the details of a little human being and weirdly enough, we are ok with being last and find joy in it. Gina shared a wonderful example of selflessness with us. She shared when preparing the dinner plates she always makes sure her children get the very best of the meal. It is in these small details of the day to day where we see how our hearts are changed forever.
- Unconditional Love. It is inevitable – our children will dissapoint us sometime in life. They may say or do the wrong thing. They may even do the opposite of what we have taught them. It is okay to not agree with them but learning to love them through those tough times is what is of the greatest importance. It is showing the unconditional love and grace that God has showed us.
- Let them learn how to fall. As moms, we do our very best to protect our children from any and all danger but it is important that we let them learn how to fall and pick themselves back up again. We must teach them to see the risk, assess the situation and act accordingly. Not all risk is bad risk if we learn how to identify the dangers.
- All opinions are not created equal. When you become a mom EVERYONE has an opinion. Most people are well-meaning, I think and hope. But at the end of the day, it takes a village to raise a child so find your tribe of moms that you can learn from and trust. Their wisdom, experience and words of encouragement will be priceless.
- You will always be “Mom”. Your children never stop needing you. Their needs will change over time but their need of you will not.
- Mom Brain is Real. Enough said!
What we found was that regardless of the age of our children, timeless truths and lessons are learned with the gift of motherhood. It is a scientific fact that when we enter motherhood our brain patterns change. (check out the article linked here). It’s science!
Some days “momming” may come easier than others. We all have our super mom days and the days where we just want a do-over. God’s grace is with us on both of these days and we learn from each. In each day, we are growing, stretching and developing the characters of Christ.
“But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!”
Mom, with God, you are a woman who is capable of doing more than you can imagine. You have tremendous strength, courage and tenacity. When it comes to standing up for what is right and defending your children, there is no one like you. Against all odds, you stand firm on the hope for a better future for your child. In all seasons, you are capable of being a shining light to your children and the mom your children need for that exact time and moment.
You are enough.
Let the Word of God guide you through all stages of motherhood.
Here is a special word of encouragement and our hearts prayer for all you mommas!!!
Don’t give up. We know it’s messy right now but one day it will all be a memory. As it is said, “the days are long but the years are short”. Keep pushing, keep loving, the sleepless nights will become less and less frequent. One day your children will look back at all that you do and they will thank God for you. These are the days that the need you the most, so talk to them, read with them, sing to them, cuddle them. It will make a world of difference as they grow and learn the love of Christ.
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
You’ve done well. Your children are in the most secure place they can be, the hands of God. You may not be physically chasing their little feet anymore, now is the time to chase them with prayers. God sees you and He sees them. When it feels like they need you least, it is when they need your prayers the most. So welcome back those early morning and endless nights with prayer over your children.
“The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.”
No matter where you find yourself this week. Whether its with a newborn, adult children or grandchildren. We celebrate you and all that you do! Your strength, dignity, beauty, grace, sacrifice and hearts.
We celebrate you!
Happy Mothers Day,
Misty and Tisha
Want to read more about Motherhood? A few months back we wrote “A Letter to Mom” that can be found here.